Getting past Cold Feet to Say, “I DO”

Oh, Weddings! Many dream for years of nuptial perfection while others take “the right person at the right time” pragmatic approach. To some, marriage feels like the appropriate next step in relationship development, while others seem to forego the...

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Success means knowing the difference between who we are and what we do

On most mornings, thoughts of work, errands, and chores stir me awake: To Do lists snap me from my slumber and toward a full day's worth of duties and tasks. My mind "goes there" out of habit and a...

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Fearless: Branching out without Going out on a Limb

There’s a squirrel that makes regular visits to our property. Betty, our terrier-mix, always senses Mr. Squirrel's presence; excitedly jumping at the glass slider to be let out into the backyard, so that she can join him. I often comply...

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Can I Trust You with Your Own Opinion?

It's a matter of trust: All of us, at some point, have 1). adopted popular trends 2). joined the opinion bandwagon 3). mimicked the behavior of someone we perceived as better than us as a way to feel "cool." Usually,...

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Team-building Toward Win-Win Relationships

As a child, my mother taught me that successful relationships were more a result of character than content. I still pass two of her favorite sayings: “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it” and “You catch...

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Why You May Be Falling Behind Rather Than Springing Forward

The New Year is in full swing as spring is on the horizon. A few months back, many of us took to the tradition of challenging ourselves by setting goals for 2018. Whether those resolutions pertained to personal, professional,...

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Companionship Managed to Vibrant Results

The Purple Heart is a medal of honor bestowed upon heroic American soldiers wounded in battle. This Valentine's season, in the name of love (not war) I am respectfully borrowing this concept and applying it to our relationships. My...

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Red Hearts! Red Roses! Red Flags?

It’s February, the only month of the year that hosts a special day dedicated to lovers…Valentine’s Day! A time when couples blissfully plan ways in which to celebrate their love for each other. Although this usually entails buying overpriced...

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Easy Perspective Shifts to Enhance Your Life

"This is a test of the Emergency Broadcast System!" Perspective is everything: As a kid, the above announcement would haphazardly blare from the television: I'd cover my ears, irritated by the interruptive hole it punched in any afterschool rerun we...

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’Tis the Season to be….Anxious?

We have all heard the expression “holiday blues,” but are you familiar with the term “holiday angst?” This “most joyous” time of year can become stressful to even the calmest and most collected individuals. The anxiety-provoking expectation to have...

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Small Steps Toward Positive Change

I believe that the “do one thing differently” technique works for a variety of client concerns. In my experience, this approach has been helpful in decreasing ruminating thoughts and defeating self-talk, improving self-esteem, breaking negative habits, increasing motivation, and...

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THINK Your way to Effective Communication

It has been written: “there are no sure things in life,” however, my experiences as both a psychotherapist and career counselor have taught me one foolproof exception to this adage: Effective communication must include an awareness of self and others. Whether...

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The Facets of Self-Love

Self-love isn't Selfish One of the most significant things a person can do in life is to shower themselves with nonjudgmental and unconditional self-love. Unfortunately, this is easier said than done as many people struggle with this notion. So, why...

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Healthy Conflict Resolution

Let’s be honest: couples fight! This scenario gets a bad rep. but in reality, healthy conflict is an essential component of even the happiest and healthiest relationships. Arguments can be used as a tool to express feelings, gain insight...

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How Curiosity Keeps Us Healthy

How Curiosity Keeps Us Healthy I am excited about iPhone X. While this may sound trendy, trite, even off-putting to non-Apple pickers - Let me state the case for my curiosity.... Today's hand-held devices are Smart: We are all within thumb's reach...

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Increasing Intimacy: Strengthening the Emotional Bond

Many people believe the term “intimacy” refers to engagement in sexual activity - This is inaccurate. Intimacy can best be understood as an emotional experience rather than merely a physical one. In romantic relationships, intimacy involves emotional engagement and...

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Mentors: Use Wisely

Mentors: Use Wisely Wisely seeking guidance from knowledgeable and kind mentors can build winning self-esteem and predicate impactful careers. I've had the privilege of interacting with a range of noteworthy individuals during my life and career: Mentors whose contributions have helped shape me...

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The 5 Love Languages and Their Influence on How We Understand Our Partner’s Emotional Needs

Have you ever felt that you and your partner express and receive love in completely different ways? Do you ever find yourself not knowing how to meet his/her emotional needs? If so, you most likely speak different love...

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Couples Therapy as a Tool Rather Than a Means to an End

Tending to the state of your relationship is similar to maintaining your body at the gym. The more out of shape your body becomes, the harder it is to sustain good health. Well, the same goes for romantic relationships! The more distance...

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Gay Parenting and Therapy: A Perfect Match

With the Supreme Court's 2015 ruling to legalize gay marriage and 2016 ruling to permit same-sex adoption throughout the United States came a progressive step toward the acceptance of gay parenting, right?? The number of same-sex couples who are raising children in the...

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Beat the Heat: Effective Tips for Avoiding Anger

Summer is in full swing: We are out-and-about, going places. We are doing things and “mixing it up” with friends, family, and absolute strangers. Maintaining cooperative spirits while juggling vocations and vacations can be challenging. Navigating summer’s crowded sidewalks...

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The F Word – Overcoming the fear of FAILURE

The F Word - Overcoming the fear of FAILURE The "F Word" The "F Word" I am referring to is not the expletive uttered under our breaths in heavy traffic but, rather, to another F Bomb: FAILURE In our "success at all costs"...

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Self-perception Issues and How to Solve Them

Self-perception Issues and How to Solve Them My career pivots on self-perception: the insight that it is not life’s events but how we view and behave around these circumstances that dictates mood, behavior, and ultimately success or failure - and...

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How to Make Love a Safe Investment

How to Make Love a Safe Investment When I visited the supermarket two weeks ago - the aisles were already adorned with pink-frosted cupcakes and floating heart-shaped balloons inscribed with the word "Love." Clearly, this pre-holiday product-placement was a teaser designed...

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Mothering and Parenting – An Updated Understanding

Mothering and Parenting - An Updated Understanding What is Mothering, anyway? Mothers come with different designations: There are birth mothers, adopted mothers, and mothers you choose (like a favorite older friend or mentor). The act of mothering also means a variety of behaviors: Helper, spiritual...

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Coupling: Mirror Images vs. Opposites Attract

The pursuit of love is something that has long stood the test of time. But what does coupling look like for you? When choosing a potential partner, two opposing options can be usefully considered. We've all seen coupling with the...

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Cognitive Distortions: Our Brain’s Way of Misleading Us

At one point or another, we have all - often unwittingly - developed irrational thought patterns that negatively influence our perceptions. These are known as Cognitive Distortions. Many of these habits originated in our formative years and were influenced...

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To Change or Not to Change?

Often a person enters into therapy stating that they need to make a change (or changes) in their lives. These desired changes generally fall into the category of adjustments to thoughts, circumstances, and/or behaviors. But first, a distinction needs...

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