The F Word – Overcoming the fear of FAILURE

The F Word - Overcoming the fear of FAILURE The "F Word" The "F Word" I am referring to is not the expletive uttered under our breaths in heavy traffic but, rather, to another F Bomb: FAILURE In our "success at all costs"...

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Self-perception Issues and How to Solve Them

Self-perception Issues and How to Solve Them My career pivots on self-perception: the insight that it is not life’s events but how we view and behave around these circumstances that dictates mood, behavior, and ultimately success or failure - and...

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How to Make Love a Safe Investment

How to Make Love a Safe Investment When I visited the supermarket two weeks ago - the aisles were already adorned with pink-frosted cupcakes and floating heart-shaped balloons inscribed with the word "Love." Clearly, this pre-holiday product-placement was a teaser designed...

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Mothering and Parenting – An Updated Understanding

Mothering and Parenting - An Updated Understanding What is Mothering, anyway? Mothers come with different designations: There are birth mothers, adopted mothers, and mothers you choose (like a favorite older friend or mentor). The act of mothering also means a variety of behaviors: Helper, spiritual...

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How Your “Attachment Style” May Be Affecting Your Relationships

Did you know that the way that your mother (or prominent caretaker) responded to you in times of distress during infancy affects how you relate in adult intimate relationships? The repeated attachment experience between infant and mother becomes a pattern,...

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Is Therapy Necessary?

Phillip's tip for October: Is Therapy Necessary? Individualism has often defined American culture. We hear "Be a self-starter and be self-motivated" as keys to our successes. Have you been raised to believe that your problems are private? To be strong,...

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Personal Training

Phillip's Tip for April: Personal Training Our lives can be overshadowed by our negative thinking. Endlessly looping about what went wrong, why it went wrong and who's to blame for it going wrong can replace our fun with frustration. Over time...

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Creating New Year’s Resolutions That Work

New Year’s Resolutions can serve as effective mapping tools; driving purpose, productivity, and fulfillment. Unfortunately, it's common practice to highjack New Year’s Resolutions and reroute them toward self-involved tests of our emotional worth. Using New Year’s Resolutions to determine self-worth is ironical and...

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Telling the Truth About Lying

As lying becomes commonplace in Social Media, a clear conversation is needed about how lying affects our emotional wellbeing. Bending experiences into Instagrammed smiles or exaggerated Facebook passages, many skew personal data. As a result, we've become a culture of false...

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Effective Communication in Five Easy Steps

Effective Communication Strategies in Five Easy Steps Instead of gazing out a window, have you ever used it as a mirror – fussing with your reflection? I often use this as an illustration when assisting clients in strengthening their...

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Acceptance as a Path to Freedom

Acceptance as a Path to Freedom Many have known the unconditional acceptance of Joey Sweetboy - the Therapeutic Assistive Animal that for years teamed with me at The Mental Gym. What you may not have realized is my rough beginnings with...

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