Awareness: Using your Senses not your Stories

I avidly observe dogs because they are present-tense creatures. I find their instinctual logic both useful and inspirational for my own sense of awareness. Sure, dogs occasionally bark, cower or growl but these are behaviors bourne out of real-time...

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Keeping Relationships On-track by Paying Attention

Have you ever looked through a window only to be distracted by your reflection? Instead of intending your gaze on what’s going on past the pane of glass, suddenly you find yourself paying attention to your hair or fussing...

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Power Struggle: When Love is a Boxing Match

Do you and your partner constantly go toe-to-toe with one another? Do you find yourselves keeping score? Is the power struggle consuming your relationship? If so, it sounds as though the battle lines have been drawn. Relational conflict becomes destructive when a...

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Beat the Heat: Effective Tips for Avoiding Anger

Summer is in full swing: We are out-and-about, going places. We are doing things and “mixing it up” with friends, family, and absolute strangers. Maintaining cooperative spirits while juggling vocations and vacations can be challenging. Navigating summer’s crowded sidewalks...

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Getting past Cold Feet to Say, “I DO”

Oh, Weddings! Many dream for years of nuptial perfection while others take “the right person at the right time” pragmatic approach. To some, marriage feels like the appropriate next step in relationship development, while others seem to forego the...

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Success means knowing the difference between who we are and what we do

On most mornings, thoughts of work, errands, and chores stir me awake: To Do lists snap me from my slumber and toward a full day's worth of duties and tasks. My mind "goes there" out of habit and a...

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Coupling: Mirror Images vs. Opposites Attract

The pursuit of love is something that has long stood the test of time. But what does coupling look like for you? When choosing a potential partner, two opposing options can be usefully considered. We've all seen coupling with the...

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Fearless: Branching out without Going out on a Limb

There’s a squirrel that makes regular visits to our property. Betty, our terrier-mix, always senses Mr. Squirrel's presence; excitedly jumping at the glass slider to be let out into the backyard, so that she can join him. I often comply...

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Cognitive Distortions: Our Brain’s Way of Misleading Us

At one point or another, we have all - often unwittingly - developed irrational thought patterns that negatively influence our perceptions. These are known as Cognitive Distortions. Many of these habits originated in our formative years and were influenced...

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To Change or Not to Change?

Often a person enters into therapy stating that they need to make a change (or changes) in their lives. These desired changes generally fall into the category of adjustments to thoughts, circumstances, and/or behaviors. But first, a distinction needs...

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