Awareness: Use Your Senses Not Your Stories

I avidly observe dogs because they are present-tense creatures. I find their combination of instinct and real-time logic both useful and inspirational. Sure, dogs occasionally bark, cower or growl, but these are behaviors bourne out of real-time awareness: they are immediate...

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Keeping Relationships On-track by Paying Attention

Have you ever looked through a window only to be distracted by your reflection? Instead of intending your gaze on what’s going on past the pane of glass, suddenly you find yourself paying attention to your hair or fussing...

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Beat the Heat: Effective Tips for Avoiding Anger

Summer is in full swing: We are out-and-about, going places. We are doing things and “mixing it up” with friends, family, and absolute strangers. Maintaining cooperative spirits while juggling vocations and vacations can be challenging. Navigating summer’s crowded sidewalks...

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Success means knowing the difference between who we are and what we do

On most mornings, thoughts of work, errands, and chores stir me awake: To Do lists snap me from my slumber and toward a full day's worth of duties and tasks. My mind "goes there" out of habit and a...

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Fearless: Branching out without Going out on a Limb

There’s a squirrel that makes regular visits to our property. Betty, our terrier-mix, always senses Mr. Squirrel's presence; excitedly jumping at the glass slider to be let out into the backyard, so that she can join him. I often comply...

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Can I Trust You with Your Own Opinion?

It's a matter of trust: All of us, at some point, have 1). adopted popular trends 2). joined the opinion bandwagon 3). mimicked the behavior of someone we perceived as better than us as a way to feel "cool." Usually,...

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Team-building Toward Win-Win Relationships

As a child, my mother taught me that successful relationships were more a result of character than content. I still pass two of her favorite sayings: “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it” and “You catch...

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Companionship Managed to Vibrant Results

The Purple Heart is a medal of honor bestowed upon heroic American soldiers wounded in battle. This Valentine's season, in the name of love (not war) I am respectfully borrowing this concept and applying it to our relationships. My...

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Easy Perspective Shifts to Enhance Your Life

"This is a test of the Emergency Broadcast System!" Perspective is everything: As a kid, the above announcement would haphazardly blare from the television: I'd cover my ears, irritated by the interruptive hole it punched in any afterschool rerun we...

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THINK Your way to Effective Communication

It has been written: “there are no sure things in life,” however, my experiences as both a psychotherapist and career counselor have taught me one foolproof exception to this adage: Effective communication must include an awareness of self and others. Whether...

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