Humans Are like Diamonds: Flaws and All

Have you ever heard someone say, “I am in search of a perfectly flawed diamond?” For centuries, the diamond has been a symbol of stature, elegance, and of course love. The size of a diamond is an indicator of how valuable...

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Awareness: Using your Senses not your Stories

I avidly observe dogs because they are present-tense creatures. I find their instinctual logic both useful and inspirational for my own sense of awareness. Sure, dogs occasionally bark, cower or growl but these are behaviors bourne out of real-time...

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Power Struggle: When Love is a Boxing Match

Do you and your partner constantly go toe-to-toe with one another? Do you find yourselves keeping score? Is the power struggle consuming your relationship? If so, it sounds as though the battle lines have been drawn. Relational conflict becomes destructive when a...

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Beat the Heat: Effective Tips for Avoiding Anger

Summer is in full swing: We are out-and-about, going places. We are doing things and “mixing it up” with friends, family, and absolute strangers. Maintaining cooperative spirits while juggling vocations and vacations can be challenging. Navigating summer’s crowded sidewalks...

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To Change or Not to Change?

Often a person enters into therapy stating that they need to make a change (or changes) in their lives. These desired changes generally fall into the category of adjustments to thoughts, circumstances, and/or behaviors. But first, a distinction needs...

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Why You May Be Falling Behind Rather Than Springing Forward

The New Year is in full swing as spring is on the horizon. A few months back, many of us took to the tradition of challenging ourselves by setting goals for 2018. Whether those resolutions pertained to personal, professional,...

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Performance Pressure

In a culture built on principles of self-determination, perseverance, and competition beginning as early as Manifest Destiny; American society continues to instill the notion of “survival of the fittest.” We are taught that we should excel in school, have...

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Small Steps Toward Positive Change

I believe that the “do one thing differently” technique works for a variety of client concerns. In my experience, this approach has been helpful in decreasing ruminating thoughts and defeating self-talk, improving self-esteem, breaking negative habits, increasing motivation, and...

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Healthy Conflict Resolution

Let’s be honest: couples fight! This scenario gets a bad rep. but in reality, healthy conflict is an essential component of even the happiest and healthiest relationships. Arguments can be used as a tool to express feelings, gain insight...

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Training for Emotional Achievement

Training for Emotional Achievement Our lives can be overshadowed by our negative thinking. Endlessly looping about what went wrong, why it went wrong and who's to blame for it going wrong can replace our fun with frustration. Over time and left...

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