Creating New Year’s Resolutions That Work
New Year’s Resolutions can serve as effective mapping tools; driving purpose, productivity, and fulfillment. Unfortunately, it’s common practice to highjack New Year’s Resolutions and reroute them toward self-involved tests of our emotional worth.
Using New Year’s Resolutions to determine self-worth is ironical and unfortunate: As the clock strikes midnight, we vow positive changes, yet we notoriously scrutinize our negative shortcomings as the process. These negative narratives nip at our self-esteem: In order to feel happy and worthy, we must: lose twenty-pounds; run a marathon; find a boyfriend or girlfriend…. These intentions imply we are the problem and that we need to prove our worth, which only increases self-doubt and the likelihood of goal failure.
The good news is, with a bit of forethought, we can reroute New Year’s Resolutions into timely tools for attaining bigger-picture opportunity, contribution, and enlightenment.
Personal => Achievement
New Year’s Resolutions are nothing more than goals veiled in the hoopla of a fresh calendar: These January 1 aspirations depend not on sparkle and flash but on balance and forethought to be successfully realized.
Instead of using New Year’s Resolutions to focus on fixing our lives, it is far more powerful and effective to use New Year’s Resolutions to clarify what is personally important, and then aim action-planning toward forwarding these passions. Below is one useful method for making New Year’s Resolutions both emotionally fulfilling and attainable.
Goals are best realized through the process of considering all the angles: When intellect and emotion are in balance, wisdom is the result. From this even-keeled perspective, we can then make informed decisions that are obtainable, enjoyable, and achievable.
Albert Einstein was a famous purveyor of using this balanced perspective to obtain desired results. The mathematician credited emotion as the key ingredient to unlocking some of humanity’s great intellectual puzzles. Einstein consciously backed away from logic, prompting problem-solving from a creative standpoint – all leading to Nobel Prize winning discoveries.
Thinking Outside the Box
Many call this brain-balance “thinking outside the box.” By consciously peeling back familiar perspectives and tearing open traditional rules, we enable ourselves to step out of our cardboard limitations toward wider, more inventive perspectives.
It’s always better to use a whole-brain approach when formulating New Year’s Resolutions – both left-sided “intellect” and right-sided “emotion” working in tandem will best inform action-planning that leads to achievement.
Become Telescopes, not Microscopes
This year, instead of using New Year’s Resolutions to myopically scrutinize and rebuild from within, let’s shift our focus outward, enhancing self-esteem through our abilities to contribute. Handled wisely, New Year’s Resolutions are helpful tools for taking stock of our assets and creating action plans that work not only for us but for the collective good in all of us.