Finding the courage to be a limitless thinker
Bill’s tip for August: “Take Note”
A torn-out horoscope lives on my refrigerator door between a snapshot of super-dog Joey and my gym’s class schedule. It reads:
Many of us believe we are being appropriately discerning by “judging this” or “criticizing that” but, more often than not, we are closing doors on potential life experiences that are vital to our growth and to our enlightenment.
I recently had a client list ten people currently in his life. I then had him group these people according to how they perceived the world. My client discovered that those individuals he had viewed as “limitless thinkers” were also the people he preferred to be around….
The next time you catch yourself auto-piloting “I can’t do this” or “you shouldn’t do that” try deciphering these messages. Are these beliefs truly your own or are you abiding by another’s philosophy? Do these rules appropriately apply to your current circumstance or are you blindly committing yourself to your unhealthy habit of self-limitation?
What truly defines what is healthy for you?
Find the courage to start the fun yourself: The heart, humor and experiences you’ll gain will put you in a category that you, and everyone around you, will enjoy.
Phillip’s tip for August: Horrible Bosses – The movie or your life??
You may have seen a recent film in which three extremely negative and hurtful bosses wield their power over their employees. These employees decide to fight back – Mayhem ensues.
Have you ever had a boss who was horrible?
Because of financial reality we often need to learn to deal with a horrible boss – Most of us cannot quit when faced with a difficult Supervisor.
So what can we do about horrible bosses?
We can influence and persuade but never change another person (personal change is always the responsibility of the person changing). However, viewing ourselves as capable, strong and valuable has a powerful effect on any situation.
Try re-framing the way you see your work. Realize your current position affords you the opportunity to provide for yourself and those you care about. Find ways to take a moment to reward yourself for a job well done – even if you’re the only one who will acknowledge this. Most importantly, make a conscious effort not to take your work frustrations home with you. Doing so allows your horrible boss to win at work AND at home – Misery loves company: Do not become at home the boss you hate at work!
“Happiness is the Best Revenge.”
Why not decide to be just happy? Do your best, set healthy boundaries, don’t gossip about your boss or fellow employees, take breaks to breathe, think before you respond in anger – Shine just for the sake of being shiny.
Amazing changes may take place in your workplace just because that change started with you. – You may even impress your horrible boss(!)