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Bill’s October Tip: How to get Rave Reviews

79Many consider The Great Gatsby the great American novel because it effectively casts a myopic eye on a psychological self-consciousness that still plagues our culture.

A story of material wealth eventually buckling under the weight of emotional assumption, Jay Gatsby pushes his image to grandiose proportion in an effort to gain the simple reassurances only love can realize. The orchestration Gatsby undertakes to win such attention is alarming – and familiar…

Everyone knows a Gatsby

“Great” Gatsbys exist everywhere: Ardently associating with something popular or someone successful, these “old sports” appear larger-than-life as they weave their accomplishments into conversations or design encounters to secure some form of endorsement – because they need endorsing.

Gatsby’s are not alone in their need to stand out

In today’s world “extra-ordinary” is commonly sanctioned: Athletes use anything to surpass performance limits: Magazines airbrush images to perfection: Scripted reality rules television….

128It is easy to understand why many of us stumble down the troubling path of proving our worth in order to feel worthy: Attempting to be great, as if who we are is not enough by default – unlit candles that must glow with firecracker intensity or risk being deemed substandard.

Are you a Gatsby?

Take a moment to assess your level of self-consciousness:

  1. In social situations, what’s more concerning – how you’re coming across or whether you’re having a good time?
  2. Do you think by losing 10 pounds or making six-figures you’ll be better accepted by others?
  3. Do you put on a public face only to go home to peer naked and trembling into your private reflection?

Remember: Jay Gatsby died unfulfilled and looking into the distance

This month, lets set down our self-judgments and happily face what’s in front of us with gusto and genuineness.

Maybe it’s time we stopped our posturing and proving and, instead, wrapped our arms around the experience of being where we’re at and who we are…

…Now that’s a novel idea.

Fernanda’s October Tip: The Truth is in the Words

120Have you ever noticed that some friends you go to lunch with spend the whole time complaining? They complain about their lives, about the behavior of others and about the likelihood that life’s only going to get harder for them. Have you ever noticed that you leave these encounters feeling badly?

Then you lunch with friends who just let bad events roll off their backs, make light of heavy situations and spend time telling you funny stories about their kids, work, and their adventures. These friends talk about their future in a positive and confident manner: They smile a lot. They laugh easily. They are thoughtful. These experiences make you feel good!

130The stories we construct, the emotions we adopt, and the words we utter can have a direct effect on how easy or difficult our lives become.

We manifest what we speak

We all have the power to pack a suitcase with a strong arsenal of words and language that affirms our lives, with a rich selection of emotions that are positive and supportive, and with stories that take responsibility for the lives we have led, and create a plot of possibilities for the lives we want to lead.

This month, consider the words you use from your “carry-on” that accompanies you in your daily life-and see how often you pull something positive out. If the bag becomes heavy, check it. A positive outlook and words will keep your bag from becoming “baggage” and keep your life rolling happily along.


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