Knowing what works for any given moment isn’t just for psychics!
Bill’s tip for October: Your Inner – Psychic
Being Halloween time again, I thought I’d de-stigmatize an occurrence that may send a shiver down one’s spine….(BOO!)
We have all experienced dèjà vu – It’s that spooky moment we find ourselves in that unfolds in an oddly familiar yet unexplainable way. The universe seems to be twisting and coming together in this gathering of seconds, presenting a tapestry of circumstance woven together, which jolts us into an unusual awareness….Have we been here before? Did we dream this? Are we glimpsing a greater cosmic plan in action?
People have been working to demystify these fragmented happenings for centuries. Carl Jung famously coined and explored what he called “synchronicity” in his psychotherapy practice. Much like dèjà vu, Jung’s concept married the coinciding of unrelated events that, together, created a meaningful impression for himself and his patients. Another attempt for understanding this month’s topic is “intuition,” which Wikipedia defines as “Understanding without apparent effort.”
Despite what psychic-advisor radio commercials shout at us, we do not need to be uniquely gifted in order to interpret these circumstances and use this understanding in healthy and reassuring ways. Whatever you call it (dèjà-synchron-ition?) these concepts all consist of the following vital ingredients: Clarity. Presence. Trust (often referred to as “Faith”).
“Light bulb moments” (Oprah’s term for all of this) occur when the distraction of internalized storytelling, which commonly yammers all of in our heads, is silenced and we are at-hand to witness and acknowledge the Moment and revel in its message and lesson. In other words: We get out of our own way, which frees us to truly and knowingly live here-and-now, opening us up to the understanding of “what works” and what is appropriate for any given moment.
We all have this knowing-ness within us. For example, we all understand the difference between “right” and “wrong,” – even if what is “right” for you is different than what is “right” for me. It is not our subjective stories we tell ourselves but, rather, the effortless abiding by our unique organic truths that open us to the intuitive living that keeps us from struggle and sends us down an emotionally healthy path and fulfilling life.
Adopting this objective moment-to-moment unfolding of our lives links us to the greater universal good. We notice how things are appropriately flowing and take faithful stock that everything is as it should be: We are using our intuition and noticing the synchronicity that is occurring naturally.
So, next time you think you have to consult a crystal ball, look deeply inside yourself – past your stories, and consider your true self your best indicator of how your life will turn out.
Phillip’s tip for October: Is Therapy Necessary?
Individualism has often defined American culture. We hear “Be a self-starter and be self-motivated” as keys to our successes. Have you been raised to believe that your problems are private? To be strong, you must deal and fix your issues alone and in silence?
But what happens when we get stuck? When we find it difficult to get motivated or we find ourselves in seemingly endless loops of self-destructive behavior? People sometimes find themselves laying on the bed hours into their day, almost paralyzed with immobility. Grief can also trigger many issues, such as loss of identity, loss zest for life and even depression.
Sometimes we need to break with tradition and seek outside assistance.
Well-being isn’t about our circumstances or the things we have or the people we know, but about how we are viewing these things. Therapists are trained to understand and interpret what may be holding us back, helping us correct our life views in order to aid in our recovery, so that we can once again “stand on our own two feet.”
Self-help books often tell us how to change ourselves, therapists encourage us to change the way we view ourselves. Cognitive therapy believes that our thought process determines our moods and behaviors. This modality addresses the way an individual structures and interprets his or her experiences: “Change your thoughts, change your life.”
Life involves death. This acknowlegement can lead one to a deep seeded anger and feelings of disappointment and anxiety. Speaking to a Jungian-based therapist, for example, may help you process this anger and help you realize that in order to appreciate life’s positives, an acceptance of one’s darker (“Shadow”) feelings may be necessary.
Part of our emotional recovery often involves getting into better shape physically, through cardiovascular exercise and nutrition. It is a known fact that poor mental health can negatively affect the physical body. Remember the old adage “Stress kills?” In like kind, the physical body both negatively and/or positively affects one’s mental health.
So consider a workout at The Mental Gym. Approaching your mental health with the same discipline and scheduling with which you approach your physical health can make you psychologically fit for life and able to live the American Dream.