How To Make Appropriate Life Choices with Ease

How not to worry about life choices

Most of us worry about making appropriate life choices. Whether these decisions involve our personal or our professional lives, creating strategic moves within optimal time-frames can feel paramount to our well-being.

Life is a series of selections: Choosing whether to turn right or left in traffic or what shoes to put on to walk the dog hardly register. Whereas, figuring out what job to take, which person to date, or when to speak up at an important gathering is another story, altogether…

It is usually not the specifics of decisions but our approach to making these determinations that sparks our emotions and leads toward positive or poor outcomes about appropriate life choices. However, anxiety around making the “right” life choices can be optional: Below are some effective ways to help manage important decision-making with ease.

Considering the Counterpoint

Making appropriate life choices are more processes of awareness than matters of scrutiny. Albert Einstein once credited his intellectual successes to his imaginative abilities. He concluded: “We cannot solve a problem from the same level of consciousness that created it.” Simply put, by shifting his perspective away from left-brained over-intellectualization and toward a right-brained emotional perspective, Einstein pieced-together some of the universe’s toughest theoretical puzzles.

Just as Einstein built a framework of wise decision-making from a whole-minded approach, we can also use the antecedent of our emotions to solve our struggles: When emotions run high, our best decisions come out of awareness and logic.


One of the ways I help clients free up, and then confidently claim their problem-solving abilities involves the following illustration:

Imagine you’re a light bulb dangling from a socket at the end of an electrical cord in the middle of a darkened windowless room. A dilemma is presented and you must find a way to leave the room.

Helpful objects to your pursuit may surround you but, no matter how much you swing and grasp, the likelihood of encountering this assistance is small because of your limited visibility. You feel as if there’s no way out….

The solution to this vignette is derived from self-awareness and logic: Realizing your potential as a light bulb allows you to use the energy coursing through the cord you’re attached to, click the socket chain you’re sitting in, and shine: Once the room is illuminated, the exit door can be clearly seen.

This story illustrates a universal principle that ripples through everything from physics to psychology: You can never dark the lightness but you will always light the darkness. When you find, and then function out of inner-illumination (otherwise known as awareness) the problematic shadows of life evaporate. This, in turn, frees you to see opportunities clearly and make decisions appropriately.

Your situations do not predicate your successes, you do: There is nothing in the universe that can limit your light – without your permission. The next time a decision is to be made, assure yourself that you are more powerful than your dilemmas – and then make the choice that becomes logically obvious.